Human beings are said to be social animals, you may have heard this line quite a lot. But the fact is that we also tend to be highly emotional. The unfortunate part here is that we only consider emotions of teenagers or adults, but not children below 15 years of age. This makes them highly violent or depressed depending on how they tend to express. There are also other emotions such as fear, anger, happiness, stress, and frustration, etc. Majority of children are highly emotional especially at the age between 6-15 years. Today our expert Dr. Tanu Chowdhury, Clinical Psychologist from Healthcare Clinic, Lucknow is going to provide you some tips on how to manage children with such high emotions.
Why Do Children Get So Emotional?
We all get emotional, children are the same, and in fact they are more vulnerable to emotional bonding than adults. This is because adults tend to analyse conditions and situations more often, whereas children just connect on the liking for another individual. Hence they tend to keep more emotions within themselves than others. Since they are small to understand to emotional bit and deal with it, it’s the duty of their parents to help them cope up with different emotions and tell them about it. Hence we have mentioned some tips given by expert to teach children how to cope up with emotions.
Tip 1- Keeping feelings and behaviours different
Since children are so pure at heart, they do not think twice before saying something or acting upon their emotions. This can give them blow at times, leading them to inappropriate behaviour. Hence you need to teach them to control their emotions such as temper and shouting. That is not the correct way to express their feeling and emotions out there. Parents need to make them understand appropriate social behaviour, the difference between emotional behaviour and physical one. If they feel upset about something, they need to talk to their parents or some guide to emit their emotions.
Tip-2 Validate and relate
Sometimes it’s the parents that do not give them their much needed validation because of which they start reaching out to their parents. Guardians are meant to validate children whenever they do something good, achieve something or even make efforts to make something. This helps children reach out and make them emotionally feel better about themselves. If you act like “it’s not a big deal, or it is alright”, then they might not make further efforts and tend to become depressed.
Sometimes it might not be very big thing, but it may be an achievement for those little children, hence validate them saying-
- You are doing great, keep it up
- Oh wow, that seems awesome; you must have made so much effort
While children are feeling irritated or frustrated, you need to talk to them and make them understand. You should you such phrases like-
I know you are upset, but we really cannot go to park today. Give reasons to explain why you are not doing so, this may make them feel better. It would also regulate their emotions.
Tip 3- Show Acceptance towards your children
Accept their behaviour with accepting nature. Children may struggle to get acceptance, they need someone to understand them and empathise with them. Tell them that it is very normal to feel confused and overwhelmed. Hence it is important that you understand why your child is feeling a certain way and what needs to be done in order to make them feel better.
Emphasise on line “it is alright to feel this way; it happens to everyone, we feel it too”. This may look over rated, but it definitely works on children. Accept and acknowledge the activity they did, the way they feel and try to empathise on the same.
Tip 4- Teach Emotional Regulation
There are different abilities that a child has; emotions are a vital part of it. Apart from empathy and acceptance you also need to inhibit some behaviour stabilizing tips. It largely depends on the child’s age and development rate. Clinical psychologist gives some expert tips to regulate emotional behaviour by the following-
Practise deep breathing- teach your children to practise deep breathing regularly, it is a beneficial exercise to control your emotional. It provides better emotional stability and strength to deal with the different sort of emotions.
Count to calm down– this may or may not work for some people. However in children, it is much more efficient because they focus more or a particular activity, reducing their stress, anxiety and emotions related to dear.
Take a break- Give your child a break, teach them the value of rest and how to cope up with their tasks. You need to step out of the classroom and take a sip of water in order to collect yourself and recreate.
Assist them with their Problems- Another good way to create a good connect is to assist them in getting over their emotional state and neutralise. You do not need to over-push yourselves over them but it could potentially help them dealt with emotions in a better manner.
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